After Drew Barrymore’s recent interview with Vulture where she spoke openly about her relationship with her mother, everyone seems to be sharing their thoughts. For the most part, it seems like there are so many people who can relate to a toxic relationship with a parent, and I’m definitely one of them.
This shouldn’t come as a surprise to anyone but not everyone has unconditionally loving, supportive and caring parents growing up. If that surprises you, I guess you’re one of the lucky ones to have parents like that. When I read what Barrymore had to say about her relationship with her mother, I felt complete empathy for her, and I also felt less alone knowing where my relationship with my mother is today.
I Have No Communication With My Mom And That’s Okay!
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It’s been nine years since my mother and I haven’t spoken. He finally decided to stop talking, but it was something I thought about for a long time. It turned out to be one of the biggest blessings in my adult life. For years, I knew that day would eventually come, and when it did, I was ready for a less judgmental existence.
One thing I hate is when someone asks me about my mom and since I won’t outright lie to anyone, I’ll just say we no longer have a relationship, and the answer is sometimes judgmental. I can’t count how many times I’ve heard, “But she’s your mom,” or “You two should hug.” Legit advice (can you sense my sarcasm?)
During Barrymore’s interview when talking about the noises from her neighbors, she told Vulture, “All their moms are gone, and my mom’s not. And I’m like, I don’t have that luxury. But I can’t wait. I don’t want to live in a situation where I want someone to leave sooner than they should so I can grow. I actually want him to be happy and thrive and be healthy. But I have to grow even though he is on this planet.”
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Now, I’m just giving my opinion here, but I think people who have wonderful, loving relationships with their parents can read that the way it’s written and find it harsh to say. But people who have dealt with toxic parents might read it the way he meant it. (Again, I’m not speaking for anyone, I’m just explaining how I understand this.)
I didn’t read what Barrymore said because she wished her mother was hurt. I read it because she wanted the freedom to not feel what she felt and to heal without the impending reminder of her childhood trauma. Or maybe, he was talking through some intense emotion and was stuck in the moment. Who hasn’t been in that position before?
Then Barrymore later said, “I dare say it, and I feel bad. I care. I will never be indifferent. I don’t know if I ever knew how to fully control, shut down, not feel, build that wall.”
This is further proof to me that it is possible to care about someone who has hurt you repeatedly and not want to be an active part of their life, and still not wish them any harm. Although I wish things were different between me and my mother, I fully accept that this is the way it should be, and I do not wish her any harm. I wish him well.
Drew Barrymore Shares Video On TikTok Explaining She Doesn’t Want Her Mother To Die
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Barrymore took to TikTok to clear up the confusion many people seem to have about what she’s saying. Many felt he wished for his mother’s death, but anyone in his position understood that that was not what he was trying to convey with what he said.
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The comment section of his videos is filled with support, understanding and love.
“Many of us here feel the same, you don’t need to explain this ❤️,” wrote one. Another added, “I can relate to this more than you can imagine. I understand exactly what you’re saying… I wish we didn’t feel this way ?.”
Other followers can also relate. “All my love and hugs to you!!! My mom and I are going through the same thing as my grandma right now. You are not alone, beautiful soul ?.”
Why Was It More Accepted When Jennette McCurdy Told Her Story And Titled Her Book, “I’m Glad My Mother Died”?
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All this fuss over what Barrymore said during her interview makes me wonder why it was more acceptable when Jennette McCurdy wrote an entire book about her childhood trauma and how her mother treated her. He even titled his book, “I’m Glad My Mother Died” and no one seemed to care.
I actually bought his book and while I’m still reading it, I LOVE it. I feel less alone than before. And hearing Barrymore talk about her mother and their relationship made me feel a little less alone.
Talking openly about trauma and healing is very important for many reasons. When you feel less alone, you are more open to really digging deep to accept everything that is happening and begin to truly heal.
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I applaud both Barrymore and McCurdy for being so transparent and saying things that so many of us have been afraid to talk about for so long. And talking openly and honestly about these kinds of things is really therapeutic and helps the healing process together.
For everyone who doesn’t understand talking openly about past trauma, be thankful that you don’t understand directly and don’t judge how others talk about their experiences and feelings, including famous people with huge platforms.
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