A Reddit user who was chewed out on social media for bringing his extended family to a wedding has been defended for doing so — and an ethics expert told Fox News Digital that the guest was innocent.
“AITA for bringing 6 people with me to my niece’s wedding?” asked Reddit user “TAonlyAITA” in a January 9, 2024 post on “Am I the A–hole?” subreddit.
In the post, the author explains that she has five children, ranging in age from 17 to 9 — and her niece, Ayla, just got married.
“When I accepted the invitation as a guest, it said, ‘[TAonlyAITA]The ‘family’ on the invitation — which in my mind, includes my children, myself and my wife,” he wrote.
Also, he said, “No childless marriage or minimum age warning” on the invitation.
“Even though Ayla is a little older, she always had a lot of contact as a child with my children (especially with my eldest) and had relationships at parties,” wrote TAonlyAITA.
The wedding, the user added, was a smaller affair “just for family and close friends.”
There is no designated seating at the reception, either.
“From the invitation, I understood that my family was invited, and I took all my children,” he wrote.
His brother also brought his two children who are 18 and 14 years old.
And while “the party was beautiful,” her sister, Ayla’s mother, confronted her during the party.
He approached her “to ask if everyone really came,” writes TAonlyAITA.
In the post, the author (not pictured) explains that she has five children, ranging in age from 17 to 9 — and her niece, Ayla, recently got married. Getty Images
“I confirm, he didn’t say anything else – and I didn’t think of anything else.”
But the day after the wedding, TAonlyAITA’s sister sent him a message saying that his behavior was “troublesome” and that he “should ask the bride and groom if I can take all my kids, who barely have enough seats,” she wrote on Reddit.
TAonlyAITA told him that he thought his invitation was meant for his entire family, including his children.
“He still doesn’t agree. He said when you have a family that big, you have to confirm if you can bring everyone and don’t guess,” wrote TAonlyAITA.
When TAonlyAITA asked her niece about this, “she confirmed that it was her planning mistake, but she liked everyone there in the end,” she said.
The wedding, the user added, was a smaller affair “just for family and close friends.” Getty Images
The nephew thought only his older cousin would be present.
Despite all this, the man wrote that he was “still criticized by my sister.”
Fox News Digital reached out to TAonlyAITA for updates and more information on the family drama.
An ethics expert told Fox News Digital that in his opinion, the man did nothing wrong — and the real fault was in his sister’s behavior and the way the wedding invitation was handled.
“When you say ‘to people and families,’ you are referring to their households. So that’s mother, father and child,” says Elaine Swann, a California-based lifestyle and ethics expert.
The day after the wedding, TAonlyAITA’s sister (not pictured) texted him saying that his behavior was “troubling” and that he “should ask the bride and groom if I can take all my children, who barely have enough seats.” Getty Images
Wedding invitations for couples only should be addressed to “Mr. and Mrs.,” he said.
And while adult-only weddings are “absolutely acceptable”, the invitation should clearly reflect this.
“This family brought their five children – there’s nothing wrong with that, based on how they were invited,” Swann insisted.
What was wrong, however, was the sister’s actions at the wedding, he said.
“That’s not the right timing,” Swann said.
Fox News Digital reached out to TAonlyAITA for updates and more information on the family drama. Getty Images/iStockphoto
“It is important for individuals to be good hosts.”
All those who organize events should know that “sometimes, the unexpected happens,” he said – and at the time of the event, it’s better to make things work.
Dr. Jayme Albin, a licensed psychologist and cognitive behavioral therapist in New York City, has a slightly different take on the situation.
Albin said he praised the bride for taking responsibility for the wedding invitation incident.
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“Although his intention was only to invite the older children, he made it clear that he made a mistake and it was not his cousin’s fault,” Albin said.
“With that said, I think the father of the children should have used a little more common sense and a little more courtesy when thinking about the marriage,” he added.
“Bringing six people to a wedding is very expensive, no matter if they are children or adults.”
Albin also told Fox News Digital that he believes TAonlyAITA “should have paid attention to the bride” about bringing all her children, “or at least had a conversation with her to make sure it was okay.”
Fox News Digital reached out to TAonlyAITA for updates and more information on the family drama.
On the AITAH subreddit, people can reply to posts and say the poster is “NTA” (“Not an A–hole”), “YTA” (“You’re the A–hole”), “NAH” (“No A –holes Here ”) or “ESH” (“Everybody Sucks Here”).
Users can “upvote” comments they find useful, and “downvote” comments they don’t.
The upvote comment asked why the mother of the bride was so upset about the situation when the bride really wasn’t.
“NTA, there. The bride wasn’t mad, and the bride said she was the one in the wrong, and she was happy to see your kids there,” said Reddit user “7hr0wn.”
The user continued, “No issues here. Your sister is angry on behalf of people who have no problem.”
“Your family’s invitation. You’re taking your family away,” said Reddit user “OkStar63” in another top comment.
“If the bride and groom want to give you a certain number of seats at the wedding, or if there is an age restriction, the invitation will say so. Your nephew has already convinced you that it was a mistake on his part, and it’s okay,” they added.
Fox News Digital reached out to other experts for insight.
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